When the Boys Group Chat Is the Crime Scene

Okay, so. I need to talk about something because I have not been able to stop thinking about it.

CNN recently published an investigation into online communities where men are literally teaching each other how to manipulate, drug, and harm women. People online have been dubbing it a "Rape Academy". And I know the instinct is to go "yeah, bad people exist, we know." But that's not what this is. This is organized. This is men logging on, sharing techniques, coaching each other, treating the harm of women like something you can get good at with practice. Like a hobby forum. Like a skill tree in a video game.

That framing alone should make your stomach drop.

Here's the number that keeps circling my head: 62 million views. In a single month. February 2026. One site. That is what the CNN investigation found. And yes, web analytics are imperfect. One person can account for multiple visits. But even cutting that number in half, even cutting it down to a fraction, you are still looking at content that treats the violation of women as a group hobby reaching a scale that most legitimate media outlets would envy. That is not a rounding error. That is infrastructure. That is an audience. That is a community large enough to feel, to its members, like a mainstream one. 62 million is the number. Sit with that.

Now. Did you know about the Singapore's "wife-sharing" syndicate case? Because if you didn't, sit down.

Singapore. One of the most controlled, law-abiding, tightly regulated societies in the world. And there, a group of husbands, men who were married, connected with each other through online forums, bonded over a shared fantasy, and then acted on it. They drugged their own wives. They brought each other into their homes. They filmed it. The ringleader, a 42-year-old father of four, orchestrated this against his wife over the span of eight years while their children slept in the next room.

Seven men total were implicated. The sentences were severe. The ringleader received 29 years in prison and 24 strokes of the cane. Several of the others received 20 strokes as well, alongside over a decade each behind bars. The court, when he appealed for leniency, told him his original sentence had actually been lenient.

And his wife, whose forgiveness he claimed to have, wrote in her victim impact statement: "I kept thinking about how cruel he was to do this to me."

That sentence. I keep coming back to it.

Because what the Singapore case and the CNN investigation share is the same root thing: the internet gave these men a room. A private room where they found each other, named what they wanted, and stopped feeling like they were alone in it. And that room is what turned individual ugliness into coordinated harm.

This is not about demonizing the internet or pretending this is new. Harm has always found community. But the speed and anonymity of online spaces makes that community formation so much easier, so much faster, and so much harder to see until someone pulls back the curtain.

Which is why the pulling back matters. The CNN investigation matters. The Singapore court records, which are public, matter. Exposure is genuinely one of the only things that disrupts this, because what makes organized predation possible is the belief that nobody is watching.

People are watching. People are reporting. And now we're talking about it, which is exactly what they were counting on us not doing.

So yeah. Holy shit. And also: now you know.

Below, I put a video of David Sloss discussing men and accountability.